Name: Jasmin Mohib
Children & Ages: Amir Mohib- 4 Mahnaz Mohib- 5
Hometown/Current Location: Alameda, CA
Quick Bio: My “day” job is as a QA Tech for an outdoor clothing company in the Bay Area. I also model, dance (former Oakland Raiderette), serve as a brand ambassador/spokesmodel and face of FancyHair.co, plus I sing — currently recording an album. Soon, I will also launch my own business that consists of helping people achieve their dreams using various strategies. I am honored to be a board member of an organization called “WeAreSuperMoms” which helps empower Moms, and serves as a huge support group for Moms in the community.
I am a divorced mom of two (a boy and girl) ages 4&5. My ex-husband and I have been very successful at co-parenting and helping each other out. We think it is very important to maintain a friendship to make things smoother for our children.
Q: What is your “go to” snack/toy/show/trick when your kids start to fuss?
A: When my children start to fuss my “go to” is entertaining them and letting them get loose, or get them laughing (it is also great for me because I relieve some stress too). I know how to juggle so they instantly forget what they are “upset” about when mommy starts juggling. My second is what I call dance party. I turn up the music (usually when they are in mid-fuss lol) and announce its dance party time. I lower the lights and put on one of those disco ball lighting and we dance all over. They get to release that tension and the laughter and dance moves are priceless memories I will forever cherish.
Q: How do you balance being a Mommy and keeping your sense of self?
A: When I first became a Mommy I lost my sense of self. I had really bad post-partum too. What helped me change was really seeing my children noticing me. No matter what I am doing they will be watching me and learning from me. This is when I immediately woke up and went about changing my life, so I can show them by example, what I want for them. I am not a stranger to going after my dreams and I expect them to follow suit. I became more confident and it motivated me to go after everything I want because that is what I want for them. I began deleting things that may be an image of me settling for less, because I would be heartbroken if my children settled for anything. As a Mom you have to lead by example at all times (and own your mistakes too bc we are human first). My example for them (I hope) is a mother who has a strong sense of self but knows she will consistently be learning about herself too. I love it when they see me in fear or nervousness but also seeing that I will not allow that to stop me from going forward.
Q: What is your favorite piece of advice to new Moms?
A: The best advice to new Moms is you have to make sure your cup is full before you try to care for others. Take care of yourself first! For example, you need to eat in order for your children to get the best nutrients out of the breast milk, you need to sleep in order to best take care of your children. You need to do things that bring you joy and happiness so that you’ll be positive in the interactions with your children.
Q: Share something you have learned about yourself since you became a Mom.
A: Something I have learned about myself becoming a Mom is that I am more of a “MOM” then I thought I could be. The thought of becoming a mother was a horrifying thing for me (and a thing I can laugh at now). I was scared about the commitment of caring for a child forever (prob a hormonal thing). As soon as I had my babies I surprised myself by how many things just came naturally. Even more, every step of their lives that made them less dependent on me (first crawl, first steps, eating by themselves) made me sad like I was losing them. It is funny how the tables have turned.