Haute Mom: Kimberly Ocampo

Posted on Jun 24 2015 - 11:15am by Aubrey
IMG_20150429_223024Name: Kimberly Ocampo
Child & Age: Oliver Rey “Orey”, 2.5 years old
Hometown/Current Location: Sunnyvale, CA
Quick Bio: I am a Marketing and Design geek with a passion for digital technology, innovation, and beauty. I provide business and marketing consulting services for small business. I’m also a part-time entrepreneur with larger vision and passion project that I’m helping to build from the ground up. I’ve recently transitioned from the 9 to 5 life where I experienced more structure in terms of my schedule. The day to day grind took a toll on me, emotionally and mentally. As a habitual workaholic, I had difficulty checking out after work hours and checking in to mommy mode. I was too caught up work life and climbing the corporate ladder that I had little to no energy left for my own child.  Now that I’m passion project-focused, I find my life to be more balanced, focused, and just overall happier. I realize that I’m in control of my own happiness and that translates into my relationship with my son, my other half, and the rest of my family. I’m fulfilled when I’m truly present in the moment, creating meaningful memories and bonding with my son.

My career passion project is GLAMHAPPY, an online beauty portal that aims to be the go-to destination for beauty shopping. It’s an content-rich and engaging website that aims to cater to web savvy beauty experts and beauty beginners alike. GLAMHAPPY aims to bring awareness and support to a variety of non-profit causes globally. We aim to bring happiness to our loyal customers all while making a positive and measurable impact on the world as we know it. Check us out at GLAMHAPPY.COM.

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Q: What is your “go to” snack/toy/show/trick when your kids start to fuss?
A: My son, Orey doesn’t fuss. It’s more like an escalated tantrum that we coined the “O-Rage.” He knows  exactly how to push Mommy’s buttons and to get heads turning. An O-Rage usually includes collapsing  to the floor (no matter how dirty), the removal of clothing all the way down to the diaper, and a signature voice-inflecting yodel that can reach an impressive volume level. So, before an O-Rage escalates to Stage  4, I whip out some of my preventative items in my purse.
1. A snack. Anything that I remembered to throw in my purse – popcorn, goldfish, fruit strips, Altoids (in desperate times). Generally, the sweeter the snack, the better. If it’s candy, I’ve hit the jackpot.
2. My phone. Orey knows how to navigate to my folder of entertainment apps. He chooses from a select assortment of go-to movies such as “Kung-Fu Panda,” “Penguins of Madagascar,” “Big Hero” or Disney Junior’s “Lucky Duck.” He opens Netflix and opens “The WotWots” – his current obsession. Or, he opens good ol’ YouTube and watches an unlimited buffet of toy review and Easter egg toy surprise videos. If I didn’t link to a trusty Wi-Fi, then I basically kiss my data plan limit goodbye.

Q: What is your favorite piece of advice to new Moms?
A: Trust your instincts and intuition – only you know what’s best for your little one. Parents (and even  non-parents) have really strong opinions about how to raise children based on their own set of  experiences. Take their advice with a grain of salt and learn from your own experiences along the way.  Enjoy the journey!

Q: How would you describe your parenting style?
A: I’d say I have a Bi-Polar parenting style – in the healthiest way of course. I love to coddle my son, kiss  his cheeks, smell his hair and his squeeze his chubby baby feet. My oxytocin levels must reach euphoric  record levels when I’m with my son and I’m pretty much addicted. So much so that if there were a way to snort my son up, then I’d be all over it. It might seem like I went pretty far with that description but I’m  pretty such mothers out there can relate to the overwhelming sensation of love that they feel for their own child.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, I can and I will parent like a drill sergeant. My son is well aware  that his cuteness has allowed him the ability to get away with certain actions from time to time. But no  longer! After experiencing too many O-Rages and after one particularly humiliating cross-country flight,  I realized that I can’t be the coddling mom all of the time, I have to be the enforcer. My son needs me to  be clearer and consistent about what is not acceptable and what Mommy will not tolerate. After 6  months of practicing, I’ve finally managed to perfect the “time-out.” My son gets a cut-off of attention  and solitary confinement until he can learn to cry it out, breathe, and calm down by himself. While at first, I thought I was being too harsh on him for these time-outs, I’m amazed at the difference in  behavior I’ve experienced. At the end of time-out, I get a “promise” of better behavior, an “I’m so sorry,”  and a big hug and kiss. Sometimes it takes 3 or 4 time-out sessions in a row to correct the behavior. But  that’s still progress, and I’ll take it.

Q: As a Mommy what is it that you feel you do “right”?
A: I can’t pinpoint exactly what I do right when it comes to motherhood. But there are moments when I  see the brightness and pure happiness in my son’s eyes. I recognize my son has developed a strong sense  of humor and comic energy that most people say he’s inherited from me, undeniably. So I guess what  I’ve done that’s “right” is to give him my undivided attention and let myself be completely silly around  him. I’m delighted to hear him kid squeal with laughter and I’m thrilled that he makes the effort to  mirror my goofy faces and find new ways to make me laugh. It’s like he’s experimenting with his comedic  timing and working on his punchlines even before being able to put full sentences together. I’m  hoping that he grows up to be an emotionally intelligent and well-adjusted person with the social  skills to draw good people into his circle and build a supportive community throughout his lifetime.